This is my own experience with dating. Any sort of disability is very hard while dating because you have to tell the partner about your disability early on or it will seem like you were with welding information and that is a bad ethical decision that some people have to make. Are used to hate my cerebral palsy but I have found on dating websites you can cut to the chase early on in the conversation and to slip them know that hey I have this disability and if you don’t like it or if you want give me a chance then you are worth my time anyway. When I look for a date, I don’t lower my standards but I am not going to let someone who has a disability not get a chance with me. It is all about the personality not the disease or the disorder or the condition. It is about the person that I most likely will be with for the rest my life if it works out. I really want to find love and I really want to find that next person. I am very fortunate enough to be lucky enough to have that bond with a special someone in my life. She is the perfect person but if I would’ve lied and said oh I’m hunky man and I am a normal man, she may not of given me a chance and she was very open with me upfront with some of her medical problems and I didn’t let her go because of that I listen to her personality. We matched a lot and while you’re going out on dates people or year doing dating apps please remember that if somebody makes you uncomfortable, to leave the situation. There have been women in my life that have been uncomfortable with the situation and they remain silent about that until days after the fact. This is unacceptable for both parties, I have learned to ask for more permissions from women that I am dating and if they’re uncomfortable about a certain situation then I let it go and I move on. But if you’re not adult enough to chime in on that decision making process then maybe you’re not mature enough to date at all. Some of the problems I see while I am dating it is people mocking me or saying that I should be able to do stuff but I’m not. My now ex-wife we are in the process of getting a divorce now, has told me that I’m lazy because I wasn’t finding a job quick enough for her after I graduated from college. Now I understand what she was talking about, she just did not want to be around me and that is fine. I will find somebody that respects me and loves me. people that love and respect me will get more out of me than the last time I was dating back in 2015. I’m not gonna let my disability define me and I’m not gonna let any sort of disability or conditioner or medical problem define the person that I’m dating. I am going to go with the best possible woman that I am dating.
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